Sindy Vasquez, nineteen, with her son Rey.
Sindy My name is Sindy and I have a two year old son whose name is Rey. I’m nineteen.
Amanda Did you want to get pregnant?
Sindy No, well what I wanted to do was just finish my education, get a nice job and then have kids. Get married. But I knew that’s really hard these days. Yeah, have my life straight. You know, be independent, have a nice job, and then have kids.
Amanda So when you found out you were pregnant were you very upset?
Sindy In a way I was. In a way I wasn’t. In a way I was, because I was like, “Damn I’m only 17 and my babies father—he’s mad irresponsible.” But then I was kind of happy. I was like, “I’m having a baby. It looks fun.” I thought it was going to be fun, but then I started noticing after I had him that it’s a lot of responsibilities, and it’s expensive, so but yeah. I had doubts of having him, but I kept him.
I don’t want to have kids no more because of that. I was in pain for like 12 hours and then they were just telling me to bounce on the ball as if that was going to help. Take a bath. Ok, walk around. So it was really painful and I was telling them to cut me. Do a C-Section cause I couldn’t take it no more. And then, he came out. After one and a half hours of pushing.
Amanda What was your relationship with your baby daddy when you got pregnant and how did he react?
Sindy At first he was like, “Oh we just gotta find a job and do this and that.” But then, after a little bit he started, “Um, Oh you need to get an abortion.” So then he broke up with me. Through my whole pregnancy I was by myself. He wasn’t around. It was like a nightmare for me being pregnant cause my baby’s father put me through a lot. It wasn’t that good.
Amanda Can you describe you baby’s birth?
Sindy I don’t want to have kids no more because of that. I was in pain for like 12 hours and then they were just telling me to bounce on the ball as if that was going to help. Take a bath. Ok, walk around. So it was really painful and I was telling them to cut me. Do a C-Section cause I couldn’t take it no more. And then, he came out.
Amanda Do you remember the first moment that you saw Rey?
Sindy I saw him and I was like, “Oh he’s so ugly! He’s got a cone head.” But he was cute. He looked nasty cause he got all that blood and nasty on him.
Amanda How were the fist few months with him?
Sindy I was staying with his grandmother from his dad’s side. His dad’s mother. At first it was good because everybody was like, “Oh, a baby!” But then they got tired of use. . It was ok. We got kicked out. So I went to a shelter. He was about six months. It was just me and the baby. It was crazy, like it was ok.
But then my baby’s father convinced me to move to New York so then we moved to New York to be with him. Supposedly over there we were going to have everything that we needed like his Grandfather’s house. We could stay at his Grandfather’s house, go to school and work, but it didn’t work out the way we planned it to. So we came back.
I thought he was going to change. He said, “I promise I’ll change. I’ll never play you cause I love my son, cause I want us to be a happy family.” So we moved to New York. At the fourth month he started to do the same thing. He found this girl—they were hogging. And then I found out and so we started having problems again. And plus, I didn’t know nobody and like his family, I felt kindof uncomfortable because I didn’t know them like that. It was just 3 people in a big big mini mansion and I felt like I didn’t belong here. So now we’re back and then actually I’m doing good.
I’m staying with my mom from like moving everywhere. You name it I’ve probably been there. But, I’m staying with my mom’s and I’m gonna start this new school there. I’m going to get my GED plus I’m going be certified for medical assistant in seven months. So. I’ll be doing good, And I’m doing good right now.